No family is perfect, and some conflicts take place on a regular basis. However, the solution here is to understand, accept and forgive. Individuals have their share of good and bad. You are humans, and we do commit mistakes that steal joy and bliss from life. However, things can be set right again with counseling…
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There are four crucial areas in your life namely family, health, career and finance. Each of them is related to one another for bliss and happiness. However, at times life may not be kind, and you face issues in either one or more of these four areas. It is here that you need the guidance…
Do you feel that your marriage is on the rocks and you just cannot set things right! Your spouse might feel the same, and both of you believe that the chemistry you had once had has flown out of the window only you bring you never-ending misery and pain. If you feel hopeless and have…
There are times when your relationship just does not work out, and the only solution that you can think of is quitting. When it comes to relationships, there is a lot of mixed emotions involved and most of the time you are unable to understand them. Disappointments anger, frustration, depression and other forms of negative…
Life sometimes comes in that condition in when it is difficult to reject or accept. That can be with any person or even situation. One of the problems arises when the spouse or partner is overly critical. Of course, divorce or separation will not be the solution. Then the excellent option is Couples therapy counseling…
Marriage is a happy bond between two individual souls. As social animals, human beings require the human touch and relationships provide that. It is necessary for our emotional needs and good mental health. A healthy and happy relationship can help people cope with anxiety and stress of daily life. However, our romantic relationships are often…
When someone enters into a relationship, it needs attachment. The lucky are those who get this. There are times when arguments go out of hand. The love hides under it and brings tensions. It is not easy to get rid of any relation. One cannot discuss these matters in front of everyone. However, sometimes for…
(I WANT TO POINT OUT THAT I AM AN EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPIST AND MY SPECIALTY IS WORKING WITH COUPLES) That said, it is actually, quite normal for one person in the couple to object to going to therapy. Reasons given can vary tremendously: “too much money”, “my friend says therapy ended his marriage”, “you just…
Most people don’t realize that some anxiety actually aids learning. For example, if you are taking a class, and you are sitting on the edge of your seat with intense attention, truly wanting to absorb everything the professor is saying, then you are experiencing optimal stress. However, if you go above that, such as a level…
When couples come in for therapy, I often ask if there are one or two themes that keep coming up. Once we have identified those, then I look underneath them to see what deep emotions are tied to each individual’s reactions. In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we call these themes, “the Cycle”, or “the Dance”. It’s…
About Peggy Bolcoa, LMFT, PhD
Marriage and Family Therapist in Costa Mesa, California, 92626
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